Charlize (not her real name), over 40 and attractive, with a life, is a online dating veteran with over 70 dates, from online meetings, she says. We'll have some of her comments over the next few weeks on a regular basis.

She is talking about the rules for dating after 40/50 and managing the online dating minefield.
"Beware of people who describe then selves as "a few extra pounds" and then turn out to be a Rita McNeil's look-a-like when you meet. Ditto for men can you say "beer gut and plumbers butt!""

Learn how to weed out the kooks. If their first message is overtly sexually explicit, or they send you pictures of their body parts, chances are they are nutty and you want to stay away. Men tend to do this more than women... must be a guy thing. I always tell them that I guess if we plan to meet, they are gonna have to come into the coffee shop with their pants pulled down, as that is the only way I will be able to recognize them from their picture!"

We'll have more of her comments. If someone is not willing to send over a picture and meet you in an absolutely non threatening environment, what does that mean? Sends bad signals, as Charlize says. Offer to let them pick the meeting spot.