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Some Ideas On How To Become More Interesting-In Dating/Relationships or Business

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from About.com My trick: think 49 as long as you can.

Helps to put the dating adventure in perspective. She/he may just not be sure. Don't give up too quickly on someone you know you really like, he said to himself as well.

Is this one a keeper?
Randy B. Hecht, Match.com

Okay, our second date. This has some promise. I’m glad to know that our offline spark matched the heat in our emails and phone calls.
There he is, right on time. Oh, no. Am I blushing? No way. I do not blush! And I'm grinning like an idiot, too. How embarrassing. Oh, man. What am I, 15?

Wait ? he’s grinning, too. Flashing that sexy smile right at me. That smile is going to be the end of me, I just know it. And those eyes... oh please, please don’t let me start blushing again!

But oh, no ? he’s already complaining about work again. That was one of the few things that turned me off during our first date. I can be sympathetic about a tough week, but he was really whining last time, going on about technical details that are way out in left field for me ? and punctuating every other sentence with, ?know what I mean?? I had forgotten about that. Ugh.

Try to refocus. Everyone has verbal tics and annoying habits. And he’s such a nice guy. Maybe his job really sucks. And he probably isn’t even aware of how often his sentences end in ?know what I mean?? ? though surely his ex-girlfriends tried to fix that.

What did he just ask me? Oh, this guy is good. Not only does he remember that my sister’s birthday was this week, but he remembers her name and the present I got for her! That’s a clear sign of interest. I’m impressed. Now I feel like kind of a jerk complaining about his work woes, even if he was whining.

Let me ask about his family. Come to think of it, he didn’t mention anything about them on our first date. Uh-oh. Bad question, it seems. Honey, please don’t give me lots of intimate details about your parents’ divorce and why you haven’t spoken to your father in ? I’m sorry, how long? Look, we’re not in a relationship here ? some of this stuff is just none of my business yet.

No doubt about it, this guy has a serious negative streak. On the other hand, he seems really positive about me. Which is the real him, and which is the act?

Well, no one ever said dating was easy. He’s definitely got his good points. No question that he’s smart; he’s made some really interesting comments about his travels and the books he’s reading. And despite the flashes of negativity, he has a sense of humor that tends to sneak up on you when you’re not expecting it. Obviously he’s carrying some baggage, but I suppose I am, too.

Nope. Dating is not easy. But it is sort of an adventure, and if this one hasn’t totally captured my interest yet, it hasn’t lost it, either. After all, this is just a second date. I don’t have to make any definitive decisions about him yet.

Know what I mean?

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More Getting To Really Know You Questions For Couples

Day 2 Questions

Do you think you would prefer a calm, loving, consistent marriage or one that was full of excitement, wild times and rocky patches?

What makes you feel secure and safe?

Which do you think should have the final say in decisions - logic or emotions? Why?

Day 3 Questions

What five things have you done in your life that you are most proud of?

If your partner had an affair, how would you react? Could you forgive him or her?

Over the last five years how do you think you have changed for the worse? Better?

On which topics do you feel qualified at giving advice?


We'll probably stop with this before Michael gets ticked of we're stealing his material. There is enough here to get the idea. I subscribe to the idea of email these back and forth or talking about them face-to-face. You can check out the 1000 Questions For Couples book and a chance to sign up for the 33 questions list Here

Spring Fever, why do most of us singles get this romantically

by Dr. Irvin Wolkoff (as published in Lavalife.com's newsletter)
(a few paragraphs)

Want to feel the earth move under your feet? Take a hike! There's no time like spring to get out and enjoy nature -- she's putting on a show for anyone interested in watching. Get out with a friend and catch up on his life; go alone and reconnect with yourself, go with a date and get romantic. It can be whatever you want. Here's the lowdown.

Great things happen to your mind and body when you head outdoors, confirms psychiatrist Irvin Wolkoff. This is especially true in the spring. "Spring engulfs us in a wide variety of delicious, sensual stimuli. For starters, we get a longer day and more intense daylight. Even people who do not have seasonal affective disorder (depression related to lack of sunlight) tend to experience improved mood when the sun comes back to their neighborhood."

Check out the amazing aromas of spring: There are places within easy reach of even the largest urban center where you can smell delicious forest floor aromas and be dazzled by the bouquet of newly burst buds and the flowers and leaves that emerge from them. Equally delightful are the sounds of the outdoors in spring, especially if you spend your life locked in an office. These include things like the sounds of running water, birds, frogs, and even the wind in tree branches. All of them can take you to a better place, says Dr. Wolkoff. .....

Dr. Irvin Wolkoff is a psychiatrist, writer, broadcaster and host of the TV show, "Love 911."

Lavalife.com had this poll that caught my eye. A basic question we'll all be asking ourselves if we are dating again. Depends on body signals including the lips, perhaps as well. My wish for all of us is of course, "on a great first date".

How long do you wait to kiss on the lips?
Men
On a great first date
51%
Second date
17%
Third date
6%
Depends on the lips
24%
Total male votes: 2240

Women
On a great first date
48%
Second date
9%
Third date
5%
Depends on the lips
35%
Total female votes: 2378


Total
On a great first date
50%
Second date
13%
Third date
6%
Depends on the lips
30%
Total votes: 4618

Romantically Challenged-101 Ideas Here For You Right Now
Michael Webb has compiled 101 solid romantic ideas you can use immediately. Download this ebook for free Here. In Pdf format. Right click your mouse and click "save target as" ,change directory if your prefer, and save the book to your hard drive. Surprise your partner or sit down and read them together and then talk about which ones to put on the list for you two.

How to move a relationship forward quicker but without pressure.
ust met someone you like. She/he says she likes you. So how do you move that initial attraction forward so that it can become a solid relationship. Many 40/50's want to move slowly for various when there really is no reason to if they can determine whether they can move that move that budding relationship higher and deeper.

A well rounded relationship is of course based on friendship that comes from understanding and knowing the other person. So I'm thinking potential future couples need a questionaire to work through to help understand each other. Could be a few questions a day emailed back and forth or it could be one fine date with a couple bottle of wine. I like what Michael Webb has done with his 1000 Questions For Couples (see below). He also sends over 3 questions a day for 11 days that you can use to start and of course promote his book.

Here's the Day 1 questions.
Is it ever appropriate for someone to express anger in a physical way? If so, when and how?

If a fire destroyed your home and all of your belongings, what would you do? If you could take out three things before the blaze, what would they be? (Assuming there is no one in the house at the time of the fire.)

When you are sick and feeling poorly, do you like to be alone or do you like to be pampered and have someone close to your side most of the time?

Email one or more of these to a significant other today with your answer first and see the results.

I'm going to work on developing or adapting a short "getting to really know you questionnaire" that I'll post a link to sometime after personal testing. Real person, real interest, life is good!


So what's speed dating? Meeting 30 or 40 people or some such large number in an evening. Overload probably and doubts but like sales, good relationships and good dating are often just a numbers game. The more you talk to, the greater the chance you'll meet someone where there is mutual attaction.


Now dating in the dark. Centers around a dinner event in the dark. Happening in Manhattan now, says the announcer on Jazz Fm, one of my favorite Internet stations to work along with. Patrons enjoy a four course meal with wine but everything is in the dark. Only waiters wear night goggles, like our troops. You listen to the people around you only and then you can make a judgement on personality only. Nothing physical to cloud the judgement early.