Was thinking. Is a good lust affair enough?  Can you achieve lust and love and one great package? How to?  Ran across this article reprinted from Lavalife's site.

Love or Lust? By Kelly Jones

Does every date proceed quickly to frenzied frolicking without all that much romance? Is she more interested in making porn videos than renting the occasional romantic chick-flick? Does he only suggest an outing on the town if it involves picking up more K-Y? It can be difficult to distinguish between your hormones and your heart's yearnings. Tap into your lust-free emotions and determine which organs are calling the shots.

Proxy Pride
Take a gander at the way you behave and feel in the company of others when your hottie is on the conversation menu. Do you get that warm, fuzzy feeling when your friends mention how cool your lover is for passing up tickets to Jamiroquai to volunteer at the local puppy pound, or do you revel only in the compliments they offer in praise of his trophy rear end? Do you find yourself bragging about your playmate's accomplishments and plans as if they were your own, or do you stutter and stumble when asked about the class she takes every Tuesday in pursuit of a third degree? Determine if it's important to you that your friends and family approve of your playmate and that your flame accepts all the quirkiness of your family and friends. Being honest with yourself about the reasons you feel proud of and respect your honey will enable you to determine whether you're acting the role of infatuated attraction junkie or enamored beloved.

Sexual Healing
When your lover passes by and brushes their hand against the small of your back, which of your body parts reacts first -- your groin or your ticker? Now add the element of appearance to the scenario. If your bedmate enters a room unshowered and has yet to gussy up, do you still find them sexy and attractive? Of course, it's natural to feel carnal energy toward someone and to have their presence move you in a physical way, but those in love feel both a corporeal and an emotional attraction. Lust focuses on satisfying sensory cravings while love is more concerned with a nurturing affection or devotion. As an example, step back and take a view of your post-coitus interaction. Couples who continue to caress after the final clenches of orgasm have passed likely share something more meaningful than pairs who only paw and fondle each other during foreplay, passing up the opportunity to fall asleep in each other's arms once bodily pleasures have subsided.

Me Talk Dirty?
Does she let you ramble on about the squirrels that keep invading your birdfeeder without once interrupting? Does he remember to ask how the corporate nod-and-bob went that you were dreading the night before? Honesty, compromise, expressing genuine interest and open communication are important in any relationship, but they are paramount to a romantic partnership. And although you may argue that tickling, dry-humping, and scratching your nails across someone's back all convey messages in themselves, most would agree that two lovers who can't talk bills, familial skeletons in the closet, and lingering irrational fears of the movie Sixth Sense may not be suitable for a long-standing companionship.

Just a Flash in the Plan?
If you and your babe take pleasure in making plans for tomorrow and into next year -- a double-date Saturday brunch or a romantic jaunt to Las Vegas after the holidays -- your relationship is well on its way to becoming a long-lasting one. These suggested ideas for outings, no matter how lighthearted, signify a form of commitment and a possibility of a loving future together -- just as long as both parties are doing the suggesting. On the other hand, if you and your bedmate don't seem to plan anything past the next horizontal tango, it's safe to assume your partnership is based solely on satisfying each other's lusty sexual hungers. Friends or lovers -- or both? Only you can know.

Comments

  Love or Lust? SOIMINHERE said...

Sometimes the lust is enough to carry through years of satified happy lovemaking. As long as it is what both parties want and need. Sometimes, even in this situation, when you are having sex you look in to eachtothers eyes and can feel deep caring as well. It's all good.

MELODYSWEET said...

Who has time to talk, in throes of shedding each other's apparell? Perhaps carnal knowledge is the least emotionally satifying kind, but surely in some instances, ignorance of a lover's daily angst and annoyances is nothing short of bliss???