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Sex Still Satisfying For Men In Their 50s

Ker Than LiveScience Staff WriterLiveScience.com Wed Feb 22, 9:00 AM ET

Despite weakened sex drives and flagging erections, men in their 50s enjoy sex almost as much as those in their 20s. The 30s seem to be a time of disappointment. Researchers in Norway surveyed 1,185 men aged between 20 and 79 about various aspects of their sex lives, including drive, erections and ejaculations.

The men were asked to rate their satisfaction with each aspect on a scale of zero to four, with four representing good sexual function and no problems. The average scores for men in their … 20s: 2.79 50s: 2.77 30s: 2.55 40s: 2.72 “The results showed a very strong correlation between men getting older and reduced sexual functioning, but not between age and sexual satisfaction, said study team member Sophie Fossa from the Rikshospitalet-Radiumhospitalet Trust in Oslo, Norway.

Eighty-six percent of the men surveyed were married or in a sexual relationship and 57 percent had been sexually active in the last 30 days. As expected, the survey found that the ability to maintain an erection and ejaculate declined with age. Satisfaction with erections for the entire group of men averaged 2.83, with the high score of 3.63 going to men in their twenties and the low score of 1.60 going to men in their seventies.

Men in their twenties reported an overall score of 3.85 for their ability to ejaculate, while men in their seventies averaged only 2.32. After the age of 59, overall satisfaction with sex fell significantly to 2.46 for men in their sixties and 2.14 for those in their seventies. The finding was detailed in the February issue of the journal BJU International, the British journal of urology.

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In Praise of Older Women

My Library says goodbye to In Praise of Older Women. The Amorous Recollections of Adnras Vajda, a great title that conjurs up so many images and thoughts..

In Praise of Older Women ISBN: 0002220946. Click the link to see reviews and details about the book.

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Relationships with Older Women
Dating Older Women

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How To Stay Lovers For Life

My Library says goodbye to How To Stay Lovers For Life , a great topic that will yield many, many more books and articles yet.

How To Stay Lovers For Life-Discover A Marriage Counselor's Tricks of the Trade by Sharyn Wolf, C.S.W., Plume Books, 1997. ISBN: 0452278031. Click the link to see reviews and details about the book.

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Wolf is also the author fo Guerilla Dating Tactics and 50 Ways To Find A Lover.

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Relationships
Dating

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Best Love Songs Ever?

Some of the top love songs as seen in one poll to get you thinking Use the comments section to add your favorites.

17.3%  Elvis Presley - Love Me Tender
  15.9%  Aerosmith - I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing
  15.9%  The Righteous Brothers - Unchained Melody
  14.0%  The Jackson 5 - I’ll Be There
    8.9%  Whitney Houston - I Will Always Love You
    7.6%  Celine Dion - My Heart Will Go On
    7.0%  Elton John - Your Song
    5.0%  Journey - Open Arms
    4.3%  Lionel Richie & Diana Ross - Endless Love
    4.1%  Paul McCartney - Maybe I’m Amazed

from VH1 (2003)

Check this list site for the best lovemaking songs and other top love song lists.

Tell someone you love them or tell them they make you feel loved (even if it’s only your mother or father or a friend)!

Dr. Phil advises on love. Fix the one you've got first, he says.

Dr. Phil on romance and marriage at MSN. The good doc has always got some thoughts of value. In this case, he's launching a new book on the subject.

Love Akin To Mental Illness?

Interesting Piece in the latest National Geographic.

Scientists say that the brain chemistry of infatuation is akin to mental illness-which gives new meaning to "madly in love." Get a taste of what awaits you in print from this compelling excerpt.In the Western world we have for centuries concocted poems and stories and plays about the cycles of love, the way it morphs and changes over time, the way passion grabs us by our flung-back throats and then leaves us for something saner. If Dracula-the frail woman, the sensuality of submission-reflects how we understand the passion of early romance, the Flintstones reflects our experiences of long-term love: All is gravel and somewhat silly, the song so familiar you can’t stop singing it, and when you do, the emptiness is almost unbearable.  We have relied on stories to explain the complexities of love, tales of jealous gods and arrows. Now, however, these stories-so much a part of every civilization-may be changing as science steps in to explain what we have always felt to be myth, to be magic. For the first time, new research has begun to illuminate where love lies in the brain, the particulars of its chemical components.  Anthropologist Helen Fisher may be the closest we’ve ever come to having a doyenne of desire. At 60 she exudes a sexy confidence, with corn-colored hair, soft as floss, and a willowy build. A professor at Rutgers University, she lives in New York City, her book-lined apartment near Central Park, with its green trees fluffed out in the summer season, its paths crowded with couples holding hands.  Fisher has devoted much of her career to studying the biochemical pathways of love in all its manifestations: lust, romance, attachment, the way they wax and wane. One leg casually crossed over the other, ice clinking in her glass, she speaks with appealing frankness, discussing the ups and downs of love the way most people talk about real estate. "A woman unconsciously uses orgasms as a way of deciding whether or not a man is good for her. If he’s impatient and rough, and she doesn’t have the orgasm, she may instinctively feel he’s less likely to be a good husband and father. Scientists think the fickle female orgasm may have evolved to help women distinguish Mr. Right from Mr. Wrong."  One of Fisher’s central pursuits in the past decade has been looking at love, quite literally, with the aid of an MRI machine. Fisher and her colleagues Arthur Aron and Lucy Brown recruited subjects who had been "madly in love" for an average of seven months. Once inside the MRI machine, subjects were shown two photographs, one neutral, the other of their loved one.  What Fisher saw fascinated her. When each subject looked at his or her loved one, the parts of the brain linked to reward and pleasure-the ventral tegmental area and the caudate nucleus-lit up. What excited Fisher most was not so much finding a location, an address, for love as tracing its specific chemical pathways. Love lights up the caudate nucleus because it is home to a dense spread of receptors for a neurotransmitter called dopamine, which Fisher came to think of as part of our own endogenous love potion. In the right proportions, dopamine creates intense energy, exhilaration, focused attention, and motivation to win rewards. It is why, when you are newly in love, you can stay up all night, watch the sun rise, run a race, ski fast down a slope ordinarily too steep for your skill. Love makes you bold, makes you bright, makes you run real risks, which you sometimes survive, and sometimes you don’t.Get the whole story in the pages of National Geographic magazine.
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